Emotional manipulation is a common theme in the behaviour of people who are addicted and can still be present in the early stages of addiction recovery.
Manipulative behaviour can be extremely hurtful and can cause irreparable damage to some relationships between addicts and their loved ones.
Often, the addicted person becomes an expert manipulator and can get away with manipulating people and situations to suite their desired outcomes.
However, if you are able to identify when you are being manipulated, you will be able to develop ways in which you can prevent falling victim to such manipulation.
Preventing yourself from being manipulated is the best method to eradicate this behaviour and this can be done in a loving and non-confrontational manner.
A person who is addicted may use different approaches when trying to manipulate their friends or family.
Often, they are able to identify which methods work in specific situations or with particular people.
The following are some examples of the different methods of manipulation – the addicted person may:
It’s not always easy to acknowledge when you are being manipulated, especially when it’s coming from someone that you love.
However, paying attention to how you feel during or after an interaction will give you a clear indication.
If you feel bullied, ashamed, confused or used then it’s likely that you are being manipulated.
The following are signs to look out for – a manipulator will:
It’s important to remember that you have the right to protect yourself from potential harm. Once you recognise that you are being manipulated, you can find ways to prevent it from happening further.
Furthermore, you can still love and support someone who is addicted while not allowing them to manipulate you.
In fact, by standing up for yourself you may encourage your loved one to recognise that they are causing harm to themselves and others which may prompt them to seek help.
You can immobilise manipulative behaviour by:
Watching someone you love self-destruct through addiction can be extremely painful. However, with the right support and treatment, recovery from addiction is possible.
We understand the role of emotional manipulation in addictive behaviour. We work closely with patients and family – helping both understand how to identify and manage different behaviours associated with addiction.
Contact us to find out more about our addiction recovery programs.
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